So my due date came and went the baby was actually due on 22nd January, there were no signs baby was going to come on my due date! Suprise suprise ive never had a baby on my due date or know anyone who has yet! I had an appointment with my HomeBirth midwife on that day so decided to have a sweep to get things moving!
ooooo i forgot how painful sweeps can be! After she had done the sweep she told me I was a good 5cm dilated And my waters were bulging she though that baby would defiantly come that day or evening, but baby had other ideas, so my due date came and went and there was no sign baby wanted to come! to be honest i had thought i woukd go at least 1 week overdue as all my previous pregnancies had gone 7 days plus!
2 days overdue wondering if today will be the day my baby makes an appearance! 😊
3 days overdue still no sign of my baby arriving I think baby wanted to make us wait to find out what gender baby was! 😉
6 days over due, getting impatient now!
lLook at that bump!!!
10 days overdue this was the day before my baby decided to make its appearance ! I was feeling pretty normal just the strains of carrying a baby we’re starting to appear bad back pain almost constantly, heartburn that was just constantly there, no matter what I did! I was actually given medication for it as I was struggling to even eat or sleep as it was all the time! heartburn is a killer when your pregnant almost every mum will tell you how she guzzled gaviscon or drank pints and pints of milk! for me it was the pints and pints of milk as it was the only thing that didnt make me feel sick and stopped that awful burning feeling straight away!
So after another sweep on Saturday 31st January I was trying everything to get my baby to come, deep squats, bouncing and pelvis circles on the birthing ball, squats on the stairs, hot bath, but still no niggly pains so I went to bed as normal.
On Sunday 1st February I woke up around 8am with quite strong period like pains so I decided to run a bath complete with bubbles of course so I could control the pain and feel more comfortable, for me I find water really helps when I’m not feeling great or I am in pain so it seemed like the best thing to do! I wasnt 100% sure it was the start of labour as i had similar pains previous to that with no outcome so decided to ride it out and just time them to see if they were proper contractions after 10 minutes it was pretty obvious they were as they were coming every 2-3 minutes.
In the bath it really was a big relief within 30 minutes they had progressed from mild period like contractions to stronger medium strength contractions, gosh i had forgotten how much they hurt! I followed a breathing technique I had taught myself to get through the intensity of the contractions, I find taking deep breaths in counting to 10 slowly then breathing out really helped me focus and blocked out the pain as I was so focused on controlling my breathing!
By 8.30 my midwife had come and i was so grateful that she was there! I just remember her telling me i couldnt have a bubble bath and i needed to let it out so my thoughts were oh no, as soon as the water left the bath the contractions felt alot worse, i suppose the water supports our body, i just remember feeling a huge amount of pain in my back, but i found using the shower a huge relief. She asked me if i could get out of the bath but i just couldnt i was in the zone focused on the breathing techniques making sure that pain didnt take over as once it does you cant get that control back!
By 10am they had increased to full intensity and I was starting to feel an urge to push, but I just continued to labour and breath through the intensity of the contractions, as I was in the bath my midwife asked me to see if I was able to get out to see if it helped the baby to come down more, so I some how managed to get out and went on all 4s on my bathroom floor, I would say the pain was almost inbareable as I got out of the water and onto the floor I knew I was close, after 40 minutes out of the bath I really needed to be back in the water as it was really helping me control the pain, I wanted a completely natural calm and drug free labour which I achieved, so anything natural to help with the pain was a bonus!
10.45 am I was fully dilated, as I pushed I couldn’t help but feel that excitement in a few minutes I will meet my baby, this new little life, this new person! It felt like I was pushing for ages, and he just wasn’t coming! That big head of his 😉
As I pushed I remember feeling that ever so distinct painful burning sensation and omg didn’t it burn, as he crowned I just remember completely not hearing what the midwife was telling me and just carried on pushing till he was completely out!
At 10.54 Theo James was born into the world! Followed 30 minutes later by the placenta we left his cord till it stopped pulsing I really feel this is such a crucial part of giving birth as you want them to get all the goodness and stem cells that are left in that cord, due to the endless benefits which include a reduction in respiratory distress, chronic lung disease, anaemia, eye dieases and also decreases the need for blood transfusions. For mum it can also prevent any problems when delivering the placenta.
Our First cuddle!
Looking into this gorgeous little persons eyes for the first time was something truely incredible, that over whelming love for this gorgeous little person that you have made and you have brought into this world, into your family! There is no other love, like the love you feel for your child, when you hold them for the first time!
We had an amazing 30-40 minutes of skin to skin time whilst we waited for the cord to stop pulsing. It really helped calm him and there was just a lovely moment we shared at that point i cant explain it but it was like relief, claming and an over whelming love for this little boy i had just delivered.
Then We applied the cord tie to his umbillical cord! The midwife commented on how thick and healthy his cord was as she didnt see such healthy cords like that very often! We opted for a cord tie instead of a clamp as it’s more comfortable for the baby and looked so much nicer than the clamp!
This gorgeous cord tie was from the lovely heartstrings umbilical cord ties
He wasn’t slow with trying to find the boob and almost immediatly he had latched on and started to have a good suckle, what a precious feeling feeding my baby for the first time it really was a magical experience, you really forget how precious that first feed is and the closeness it brings to mum and baby it was truely a special moment and one i am still enjoying now! After a good 10 minute feed i passed him to my secound midwife who wanted to do his baby checks whilst i delivered the placenta.
Baby Theo’s first Feed!
Those tiny hands! ❤
I was so shocked when she weighed him to find out he was a whooping 9lb 9oz I was expecting an 8lb baby no wonder it hurt so much, my last two babies were 7lb 15oz and 8lb 15oz so he was a huge whopper compared to them! His head was even bigger at 37.5cm when the average is 35cm i guess he was just meant to be a big baby.
Having his first newborn checks! To make sure he is a healthy little man!
Thank you for reading my birthing story we now have an amazing little 6 week old baby theo and we are all so besotted with him!
Special thank you to ashley ide photography for these amazing photos.